When you are a small business owner, you are running the show, if something happens, your business still exists, whether you are there or not. Well, two weeks ago, almost to this exact hour, something happened I never thought I'd experience- my mom had a hemorrhage in her brain and 5 days later, she passed away.
I couldn't even think of the store, I only wanted to be with family, for support and love, and to be there for them, while trying to figure out what we would do next. I wasn't even sure what day of the week it was after a while.
I'm grateful my girls at the store kept things running while so many people reached out with their thoughts, prayers, and offers of help. When you have a small business in a small town, it's nice being able to be transparent, I always wanted to be a part of the community and I feel being able to share this shows what Bucci's Bridal is really about- being honest and open.
Now that things are settling down again and it's time to return to the store, I wanted to share an article my cousin, Maria, shared after my mom's service:
Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents.
I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see.
As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.
In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.
Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out. Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.
Honest Post Ahead… Today marks the two year anniversary of when Bucci’s Bridal opened its doors and I didn’t think much of it when I woke up this morning, but being the sentimental/sappy person I am, it naturally made me think back.
Grateful and blessed are all I feel right now. This small dream of always wanting to open a business came true and I never thought it would have grown into what it is today, and I can only imagine what is yet to come.
Being a business owner has its perks, who doesn’t want to be their own boss? But it also comes with some very real truths, there were days I doubted why I ever wanted to start this, or worry the risk is too great, and I feel bad for all the times I wanted to spend more time with those I loved, but I had to "be at the store", or took out a long day or weekend on someone because I was “tired” and just wanted to complain. I appreciate all the support and love those people gave me, despite showing my ugly side.
People often ask why I opened this bridal shop, and while I did it because I love having the creative freedom to do whatever I want, it ultimately comes down to where I want to devote my time. I LOVE what I do here and while running a business feels like a 24/7 job, it is worth it for the long term. I hope to keep working towards building a team to run this place with the core values and beliefs I stand behind, while I’ll be able to have more time for those I love, because ultimately love, family, faith, those all come first in life. It is those things that drive me to work harder every day to keep building a future I believe in.
So thank you if you took the time to read all of this, now you know a little more about the lady behind the Bucci’s Bridal title and I appreciate every single person who has helped contribute to this store, it’s name, and everything it stands for.
2016 Prom Trends
Crop tops have been a huge trend this year! If you want to show off your midriff, this is the dress for you! These dresses are fun, flirty, and continue to be the most requested dress!
It’s no surprise that bling is a trend that continues year after year! Every girl wants to have some sparkle, which is why a lot of prom dresses you see will have sequins and crystals. The crystal and sequins will make you stand out, and give you a show- stopping look!
Yes, a lot of girls want bling, but there are some girls who like the simple and clean design look. Flowy chiffon, jersey, or satin fabrics are known to be timeless and beautiful.
Bold florals or pattern dresses are a new trend this year! These dresses typically come with a bold patterned skirt and are paired with a beaded or simple top. If you are searching for something unique, this might be a great option for you!
Low backs are always a hit! Whether the low back highlights a bit of detail or is left completely open for a dramatic effect, a low back dress always makes a statement!
Illusion will be seen at the neckline and on the back of the dress to give the effect of a bare back. Some might have sheer panels on the skirt to show off a little leg.
Hi friend! First off, major congrats are in order! As a recent bride, I have been through the process you are going through right now. It is such an amazing time, planning one special day and I just truly hope you enjoy the process together! Time truly flies by!
Trust me, I get it, finding the perfect gown is one heck of a process that at times can seem stressful! But that is why I am here! I am full of admiration for every bride that walks into our store and LOVE celebrating their engagement because I know all of the emotions, time and excitement that goes into finding the perfect wedding gown!
I have always LOVED weddings, which is why I decided to become a bridal consultant as well as a wedding photographer. I truly love meeting every bride that walks into our door. Seeing their faces light up when they talk about their wedding and find the perfect gown is SO special to me. I live for the moment when mom sees her little girl smiling from ear to ear when she knows that she found the perfect gown. It’s such a special moment and is something I am truly honored to be a part of.
Now, since it get a little overwhelming when you begin to dress shop, I thought it would be fun to show you some of my FAVORITE bridal accessories we have in our store. I love adding finishing touches to dresses you love, so when you have an appointment with me, be ready to see a full look!
Oh yes, we are going here. Have you ever wondered what a Bridal Specialist thinks about during her appointment? Read six things we wish our brides knew during their wedding dress shopping experience!
1. Don't shop too early, but don't shop too late
Hmm, yeah this can be conflicting, but it's true! It's always a great idea to start a Pinterest board of ideas of what you're looking for and it's also fun to start browsing to get idea of what you may like, but if you start too early, you may become overwhelmed by visiting too many shops, waiting for the new season of dresses to come out, or over compare styles that are too similar.
You also don't want to shop too late because you need time to order a dress and have alterations done. We always suggest at least 8-10 months out since it may take about four months for a dress to arrive and anywhere from six weeks to two months for alterations. Plus you need to consider bridesmaids dress shopping so your girls can coordinate with your dress and you will need time for them to order as well!
2. Trying on a dress outside of budget isn't always "fun"
Nothing is more discouraging than trying on a dress you fall in love with, but ultimately cannot fit into your bridal budget. Yes, there are a million options out there, but we are careful to help you select styles that are within your price range which will meet everything on your dream dress list! There are even options to add sashes, modify necklines and trains to customize what you envision.
3. The more is not the merrier
Don't misunderstand us, this is a monumental chapter in your life and you want to be able to have those closest to you while you choose a dress to wear on your wedding day, but the more people you bring the more opinions you will hear and we have seen the "burn out" look one too many times. We suggest no more than three guests in an appointment.
Ultimately we want your experience to be memorable, while keeping the focus on you, plus we want to be able to answer your questions and help style your look. There are many opportunities to have everyone involved in your planning, keep in mind bridesmaids dress shopping, accessories, picking out shoes, a hairstyle, make-up etc.
4. Not everyone cries
Like you may see on TV, not every bride needs to cry to know her dress is "the one". In fact, mom, a close friend or sister may be the one to start tearing up first! You will know you found your dress when you can't help but smile, while feeling confident and beautiful, knowing this dress reflects who you are and you cannot wait for your fiancé to get that first glimpse of you in it. Alright, hold on, now we need a tissue.
5. Light, camera, make-up
Let's get one thing straight, camera phones will NOT determine how amazing you are going to look on your wedding day! While a bridal shop will have a lot of lighting and windows, those darn phones know just how to capture a bad angle. Trust those oversized mirrors, look at yourself from every side, walk around, sit down, but for goodness sake, don't pick a dress solely on what it looks like on a phone. Wearing natural make-up is also a great idea to see what you will look like on your wedding day, plus you can never go wrong with a good lipgloss and a little mascara.
6. We want your honesty!
We get it, people from the midwest are "nice", that's just who we are! We don't make the dresses though, so talk to us, let us know what you really like or don't like because that helps us find something you will truly love. We see dresses all day long so we know what looks good on different body types or how something can be customized. We want to get to know you, your family, personality, and hear all about your wedding details, because in the end, we want to find a dress that is all about YOU!